I love being prepared. Arriving 10 minutes early, making meal plans, and having a clean house before I know company is coming–those things just thrill me. That being said, there are two things I was NOT prepared for when having my sweet boy.
1. Read, Read, Read
I planned on figuring out how to do naptimes, feedings, and all those other baby-things when the baby came along. After reading “What to Expect When You’re Expecting”, I was on information overload and overwhelmed; surely, I assumed, reading the how-to books would only add to the burden. Oh dear. How I wish I would’ve read all those books with sweet E in utero! There is no one right way and every child-mother combo is different but it would’ve relieved an enormous amount of stress had I known all my options (books like On Becoming Baby Wise and Secrets of the Baby Whisperer) . Also, I would’ve made a couple of easy-to-reference charts–how much should baby be sleeping at different ages, how much should baby be eating, what medicines can he have what ages, etc.
2. Mommy Guilt
Ugh! It’s very real, very oppressive, and darn-right mean. Every time I turn around, I’m feeling bad about something else–whether it’s something that happened yesterday or the first week of E’s life. I battle with memorized scripture as my sword and my shield, unceasing prayer. If you are in the midst of it, know you are not alone. I would suggest these two places to lift your spirits:
1. Little Pieces of Ordinary – Ashley gently reminds what real grace really is.
2. Why Their Methods Won’t Work For You – Practical and encouraging words about discipline.
Love to those of you with little ones at home and those carrying Baby around within you.